Well the day is officially here. It’s my 26th birthday! *twerks to birthday bxtch*
I’m honestly incredibly grateful to get to celebrate another lap around the sun. This past year surely had it’s ups and downs but I did learn a few things along the way. My top ten lessons of the year were:
- When in doubt dance it out
There is something truly freeing about being able to move your body. I cannot count how many bad (and good) days I’ve had and just had to end the day with a good ol’ dance session. It really is one of my forms of therapy at this point. So find your jam, and never stop dancing. - Bad bxtches have bad days too
Yes, Megan was right. Baddies do in fact have bad days too. That is just life. Don’t dwell in the bad though, process it and choose to move past it. And when you are really struggling, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Admitting you need help doesn’t make you weak, I’d argue that it makes you that much stronger. I started back in therapy this year and I can honestly say it’s one of the best gifts I’ve given myself in a long while. - Get comfortable with being uncomfortable
Girl, we are getting too old to be ashamed of doing things that we enjoy. Stop letting your anxiety rule you and go do that thing that you’ve been wanting but have been too afraid to actually try. Just yesterday, for the first time in my entire life, I sat down in a restaurant and had a full course meal by myself. And I was just fine! So take that dance class, go to that restaurant or try that new hobby. You’ll be surprised how that tight-nit comfort is actually willing to grow, when you allow it. - Mo’ Money less problems
I give myself permission to spend MY money however the hell I want. That is all. - My dog IS my child
People really get offended when I refer to my dog, Kahlua, like she’s my child, but like to me she really is. So yes, sometimes I’m going to say no to plans or not be able to do something altogether, simply because of Kahlua. I’ve seen Kahlua through multiple surgeries and terrible sickly nights, so yeah she’s my child. And if you can’t respect that, that’s a you problem. - Goals are meant to change
My gosh, this one was really hard for me to learn. I always had this very specific plan of being married by 23, starting a family by 25, making X amount of money by 30. And now that I’m looking 26 square in the eye, I really don’t know who the hell I thought I was with that timeline. It’s simply unrealistic for me and my current goals. Do I still want a marriage and a happy family? Of course. Do I think I’m ready for either even at the age of 26? No. And that’s okay. I’ve chosen to embrace that truth and to adjust my goals to align. I recommend you take a look at your own goals and consider where you currently are emotionally, physically, and financially. I’m not saying don’t shoot for the stars. I’m just saying, know that the moon is a reasonable stopping point while you’re on your way.
- You NEED people
Yes, even us i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t women need people too. So if you haven’t already, take this next year to really find and connect with your people. Trust me, it’ll be good for you.
- Life is like a box of chocolates
You know where this one is going .. but honestly, you really don’t know what this life is going to give you. Sometimes life gives you lemons, and sometimes she chucks them at your head. Cheers to making lemonade of all the lemons you dodged!
- When your number is called it is called
I recently had an eye-opening conversation and at the end the person said, “Well that’s just life, when your number is called, it’s called” And that really stuck with me. Having survived a traumatic and fatal car accident two years ago, I have continued to struggle with why I got to live that day. As simple as it may sound, this quote has helped me process that day a little better. My number simply wasn’t called that day, and for that, I am eternally grateful.
- Make it like your birthday every day
A friendly reminder from me and Katy Perry to celebrate this life every single day. The bad days will pass and the good ones will last. Embrace them all.
Love you, mean it <3
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